Don’t judge a book by it’s cover

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It’s amazing how we look at a person these days and our perception of them is what we think of them and worse still they are creating a perception about you. There is a multi-billion dollar industry based around this, from the latest designer clothes, sunglasses and shoes through to wearing your “Right” colour.

I don’t know how many times I’ve heard someone at a networking meeting, a workshop / seminar say it only takes 7 seconds for someone to make their mind up about you. And to tell you the truth it actually makes me burn a little. I  could be wearing prink and some people don’t like pink but they say within the self-help workshops that if you want people to be attracted to you should wear pink or perhaps that’s just not my colour.

Look don’t get me wrong I love getting dressed up, wearing make-up having my hair and nails done but should we be making judgements on others because they don’t seem to appear the same as us? What is it really that upsetting us on how that person appears to you?

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What I find amusing is that underneath all of the hair, make-up, clothes, skin, muscle organs and veins we are all just a pile of bones.

Wouldn’t it be easier if you just saw bones in front of you then you could listen to what the person had to say and felt where they were coming from and not just focusing on whether or not you liked what they were wearing? It would probably help with thinking about how someone is judging or perceiving you.

I pose this to you next time you are speaking with anyone friends, family or someone that you are meeting for the very first time look past what’s on the outside, see their bones and truly listen to what they are saying you will be surprised in how much you will actually hear.

 

Photoshop – Love it or Loathe It

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My dear friend Cyndi from Cyndi Briggs Photography and I have been playing with characters lately as she is trying to find her special niche within the photography industry.

She has found that she is really enjoying putting together shots that are from the fairy realm and so I have been channelling my inner fairy tale character for the shots.

Cyndi went into her photography course thinking she was going to take beautiful shots but as time has gone on she is now creating beautiful shots through Photoshop.

When she came up with the final copy everyone was praising her on how creative she is and myself saying how beautiful I look. Cyndi also said that she will never show the pre-production shot which got me thinking.

I went to her studio and asked her to put the before and after shots together and yes there are quite a number of differences which lead me on an internal journey to see how I felt about the photos and how I felt about myself.

Looking at the photos together I felt a little disillusioned as in the photo shopped copy looked truly amazing but then I stopped a moment and remembered what the photo was for. I was to look like an elfling character a fictional character from our make believe. Fictional stories and characters where invented to take people on a journey and make them smile and this is what this series of photographs has done.

Then I looked at the photo separately and saw the person that I see every day in the mirror the person that I love unconditionally. The funny point is that when I saw the post production shot initially I felt that I was looking into a mirror as that’s how I see myself when I look at myself.

I look at all of the photographs that are taken for the fairy tale story that is being shot over a period of time and I see the elements of me within each of the shots.

So this brings me to how do you see yourself when you are looking in the mirror?

It has taken me a lot of years to finally look into the mirror a see the true beauty reflecting it self back at me.

Try this:

For the next 21 days look into a mirror for 5 minutes and say to yourself in your mind I AM an extraordinary being with beauty that shines from the inside.

Let me know how you go……..

The case for keeping Julia Gillard

As a woman I think that Julia should be held in high regard. I don’t think that she has had an easy job and I do believe the points that have been made throughout this post.
Is the Australian culture of the Tall Poppy so bad that we just cut anyone one down? As a women who is guiding other young women to strive for their greatness I say that we should get behind other women who have layed a path for this the year of the feminine, 2013.

The Australian Independent Media Network

“So why am I the last columnist to give them a fighting chance? Well, Julia Gillard has never been given a fair go” (Robert Macklin).

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This post has been reproduced with the kind permission of journalist and author, Robert Macklin from his article The case for keeping Julia.

It seems I’m the only columnist left in Australia who thinks Julia Gillard and her excellent government have a reasonable chance of winning the September 14 election.

Call me quixotic if you like, but I just can’t believe that my fellow Australians would toss out a government that has done us such sterling service for an opposition led by Tony Abbott who threatens to undo so much of what we’ve achieved these last five years; and who wants to set us on a path to “austerity” that has done such appalling damage in Europe and the US.

Consider the Government’s achievements:…

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Beauty

I love having my photo taken some shots turn out better than others, the silly faces and the emotions captured.
With all of the hype these days about what is perceived as the perfect looking woman, it’s been really interesting being in photoshoots that I know will be photo shopped into looking like a fairy.
Looking at the before and after photos side by side made me realise the ridiculous lengths that magazines go to create the perfect look which is like a full time job to achieve. It also gave me an insite of how I look at myself in the mirror. In tbe mirror I see the picture that seems to have been touched up and that brings me to the point I’m trying to make. How do you see yourself in the mirror?
I could see a lady who is voluptuous in figure, a few lines from age but I choose to see the person that lives within my human skin – my essence or my soul.
That is where your beauty is and the more beautiful that you see yourself in the inside that is how others will see you.
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