It’s amazing how we look at a person these days and our perception of them is what we think of them and worse still they are creating a perception about you. There is a multi-billion dollar industry based around this, from the latest designer clothes, sunglasses and shoes through to wearing your “Right” colour.
I don’t know how many times I’ve heard someone at a networking meeting, a workshop / seminar say it only takes 7 seconds for someone to make their mind up about you. And to tell you the truth it actually makes me burn a little. I could be wearing prink and some people don’t like pink but they say within the self-help workshops that if you want people to be attracted to you should wear pink or perhaps that’s just not my colour.
Look don’t get me wrong I love getting dressed up, wearing make-up having my hair and nails done but should we be making judgements on others because they don’t seem to appear the same as us? What is it really that upsetting us on how that person appears to you?
What I find amusing is that underneath all of the hair, make-up, clothes, skin, muscle organs and veins we are all just a pile of bones.
Wouldn’t it be easier if you just saw bones in front of you then you could listen to what the person had to say and felt where they were coming from and not just focusing on whether or not you liked what they were wearing? It would probably help with thinking about how someone is judging or perceiving you.
I pose this to you next time you are speaking with anyone friends, family or someone that you are meeting for the very first time look past what’s on the outside, see their bones and truly listen to what they are saying you will be surprised in how much you will actually hear.