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So just recently I have been thinking about what I have been doing to my body by the foods and drinks I have been consuming and how they make me feel.
About 6 weeks ago I decided to cut my caffeine intake and stopped drinking coffee which for someone who use to live on coffee was a pretty big thing. What I did was swapped it for Chai Lattes and lucky for me my local café makes them with real leaves not just the sugary mix.
A week or so after that I thought I’d start dry July a week early so I haven’t had an alcoholic drink in quiet a while and I am clearer and have not even felt like one so I will keep going with this.
But what I hadn’t realised (well did want to realise) was that I had replaced coffee and wine with my sugary friend chocolate, and lots of it. the build up was just getting more and more until the weekend just gone when I ate so much that I was ashamed of myself.
Monday I felt all achy, slow and really I felt like I had been drinking a case of champagne not indulging in my chocolate heaven. Then the headache kicked in and the negotiation that I was having with myself just have a small piece and the headache will go away, hmmm breathe, no I’m not going to crack no yet anyway.
Then I got to thinking that what I was actually doing was using my chocolaty friend as a comfort blanket which slowly crept up on me and actually took over for a short while. And I am so grateful for a realisation that I have been substituting which has showed me that I have come so far because of how quickly I have been able to make it turn around. In the past I would have let this go on and on for weeks not just the weekend.
I’m also taking on a new challenge to detox myself from my chocolaty friend and look at why I am turning to it for comfort.
And the reason why I was looking for comfort is that I am afraid not from fear but of the love and the joy that I have allowed into my life. When you have had so much fear within it takes a couple of times to just let the love flow. Each time I slip it is very easy to come back to ‘the light’ and keep moving forward.
So this is why I am now going to start treating my body as a temple and not to hide behind food any longer. This doesn’t mean that I will never eat chocolate again it just means that I’m resetting myself for greatness. I have also realised that it’s not really what I’m eating it’s why I’m eating it that I will continue to work on.
Last week I was lucky enough to be able to help my new friends Trudi & Ben from The Dream Initiative with their access program called The Gathering.
They are based in Adelaide and work with teens to build confidence.
The Gathering is a fun filled 3 days packed full of brilliant ideas that help the teens make better choices within their life.
I can’t wait to help them out again next school holidays.
It’s just been the holidays and my step children have just been to stay over for a couple of days from interstate. They are 15 year old William and a month off 13 year old Amber. This time I thought that I would let go of all expectations that I had of the way they were going to act and go with the flow with whatever arises over the next couple of days.
It was a little traumatic picking them up because there 2 & 1/2 year old brother to their mother’s new partner wanted to come too. Poor little buddy had it in his head that we were going to Disneyland and began to scream to get into the car. This is the first time that he has done this and wasn’t fun for anyone.
Then the car ride home was the interesting part I was chatting with the kids and asked them about their day, what they had been up-to during the holidays and then how school was going. WOW! did I get a surprise. The conversation went on and on and on with the kids stating how terrible this one particular teacher was and that it’s his fault that they didn’t do good in his class because there was too much theory and that he “Didn’t ENTERTAIN Us“. “Teachers are suppose to make it fun so that we can learn”.
It lead me to question then for our larger community of younger people to be intelligently developed do we have to entertain them? Will going for a teaching job entail an audition to see how entertain that person is? It then made me think – Do all of the kids want to be entertained or is it just the kids that find that style of learning beneficial? There are many ways to learn and teach so do we need to look at the teaching curriculum and styles that get the boring stuff and the fun stuff through within the schooling system.
All of this from a young man who sat in front of the television entertaining himself for those couple of days that he was visiting.